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If 2 is Good, 4 is Better???

If 2 is Good, 4 is Better???

Men do this all the time.  They seem to do it effortlessly.  However, I have it on good authority, that they can get really tired and sometimes attached in spite of their best efforts.  So do this at your own risk, and only if you too are Severely Commitment Phobic.

Whenever I have tried multiple dating, it’s been either because I am trying to not get attached to one particular guy or because I like certain qualities of each guy.  And so I am secretly wishing I could smoosh them together and make my perfect man.

The secret to dating multiple guys is to not let any of the relationships get too serious.  (I personally have failed miserably when trying this one.)  But the trick seems to be to have at least 4 guys, who you only see once or twice a month.  This way you don’t get too attached, and you can be as commitment phobic as you want.

However, if you have stacked up the dates for a weekend, the best thing to do is have someone to help you juggle.  I once called up my Mom to have her call the guy I was suppose to meet for lunch (I didn’t have his number with me), because my previous evening’s date was still going on. (Slept over because no one was driving home drunk.)  And then, when I came home and went on that date, she then had to entertain my third date when I was late getting back from lunch.  That was the one and only time I scheduled so many dates back to back.  However, I know of women who have successful dating multiple guys, but they tend to have someone to help them juggle the dates with finesse should they run late.

It probably also helps if the person running interference isn’t laughing at you the entire time.  But then again, they need their entertainment too.

What do you think? Can you successful date (non exclusively) multiple people? If so, what’s the secret?

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  1. JMarch 22, 2011
    I think dating multiple guys is STRESSFUL! But, do agree it’s good for keeping your expectations down and not getting too invested in one particular person.
  2. I think it’s a great idea to date several men at the same time, that way you don’t get too obsessed about one guy and can stay a bit distant until you really get to know someone. What I think is difficult, is finding multiple guys that I want to date at the same time. I usually meet ONE guy that I like, and then date him, and then get into a committed relationship with him because I like him. But keeping things light and casual is a great idea at the start 🙂
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    Michelle@MyDevinaMarch 22, 2011
    Thank you J and Angelina!
  4. ChadMarch 24, 2011
    I ran into this very issue in my dating life. I will be writing a new post and referencing your blog. It’s a double edged sword at times. You certainly want to make the right choice and pick the guy that you feel is the best fit for you, but as you said you wish you could smoosh them together it would be so easy.
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    Michelle@MyDevinaMarch 24, 2011
    Thank you Chad. Will be great to get a guy’s honest take on if they too find this whole idea practical or not, and exhausting or not. : )
  6. amyApril 4, 2011
    Agreed; it’s both. Dating lightly can be fun and carefree or stressful and totally not worth the trouble… I think it depends a lot on whether or not you’re naturally extroverted and able to take your time getting attached. And not getting too physical too soon is absolutely key — to maintain both your clarity of judgement AND your sense of self. 🙂
  7. jphil2020April 12, 2011
    i used to date more than one girl at once but now i just find it to be more trouble than its worth, i’m on the lookout for someone new at the moment and ive been out with a couple of people once, after that i didnt seem to connect with any of them so i’m gonna look but not touch for a while. Playing the field going on multiple dates all at once for me aint good.
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    Michelle@MyDevinaApril 12, 2011
    It’s nice to hear that some men aren’t into dating a group of women at once. Until I wrote this blog, I always assumed anyone I was dating, was dating a few other girls, unless they indicate otherwise.

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