If 2 is Good, 4 is Better???
Single Life
Men do this all the time. They seem to do it effortlessly. However, I have it on good authority, that they can get really tired and sometimes attached in spite of their best efforts. So do this at your own risk, and only if you too are Severely Commitment Phobic.
Whenever I have tried multiple dating, it’s been either because I am trying to not get attached to one particular guy or because I like certain qualities of each guy. And so I am secretly wishing I could smoosh them together and make my perfect man.
The secret to dating multiple guys is to not let any of the relationships get too serious. (I personally have failed miserably when trying this one.) But the trick seems to be to have at least 4 guys, who you only see once or twice a month. This way you don’t get too attached, and you can be as commitment phobic as you want.
However, if you have stacked up the dates for a weekend, the best thing to do is have someone to help you juggle. I once called up my Mom to have her call the guy I was suppose to meet for lunch (I didn’t have his number with me), because my previous evening’s date was still going on. (Slept over because no one was driving home drunk.) And then, when I came home and went on that date, she then had to entertain my third date when I was late getting back from lunch. That was the one and only time I scheduled so many dates back to back. However, I know of women who have successful dating multiple guys, but they tend to have someone to help them juggle the dates with finesse should they run late.
It probably also helps if the person running interference isn’t laughing at you the entire time. But then again, they need their entertainment too.
What do you think? Can you successful date (non exclusively) multiple people? If so, what’s the secret?
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