Tired of Being Alone

Single Life

by My Devina | 11 comments

Art by MichelleGArt.com

You know that song by Al Green? “Tired of Being Alone”? I am so feeling that right now. Today I ran into two men I have dated previously. Both stuck in Peter Pan mode for very different reasons. Both nice guys, in some respects, with whom I have chemistry. But because they aren’t looking for a girlfriend with staying power, we started off as friends, went out once and then went back to being friends. Well, they both invited me over today. And I so wanted to go be with Someone. Because I am so very tired of not having anyone hold me at night.

But I turned them both down, because while I need physical release. And while I would love to be held all night long. It would go no where. And, maybe it’s the girl in me, but it also would be missing something. Because it’s going nowhere. So I chose to go home, and stay home instead.

So now it’s after midnight. And my bed looks so fucking lonely. Wondering if I made the right choice…

What about you? Have you ever felt bone tired of being alone? What did you do?

For another related post, see Ugh – Loneliness

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ChadApril 9, 2011 Log in to Reply

Well it all depends honestly. As you said you know with these two guys that it is not going to go anywhere. So do you run the risk of hurting yourself emotionally by going to makeout with one of them just because you do not want to be alone at that particular moment?
What’s the saying? “This to shall pass….” Let’s say you did go see one of these guys and did have a “makeout session” and stayed the night. Would you wake up this morning and regret doing that because you know that nothing is going to come of it? Wouldn’t this scenario be more of a type of “booty call” on some levels since its not going to go anywhere?
Hopefully some of the above made sense…..I do feel your pain though. It does get lonely at times not having someone to cuddle with (yes I like to cuddle ok..lol), spoon with, etc…. But in the end I realize that I’d much rather have a girl with staying power (as you say) than just any girl to take up space in my bed…..
- Michelle@MyDevinaApril 9, 2011 Log in to Reply
  
  Very True Chad! I love that scene in My Best Friend’s Wedding where the bellman says to Julia Robert’s character “This Too Shall Pass.” And it did, it always does. : ) And I woke up the next morning feeling good about my decision. BTW thanks for always giving a male perspective. It’s nice to hear that men sometimes think along the same lines we women do. : )
Autumn LeeApril 9, 2011 Log in to Reply

I think you made the right decision. 🙂 I have temporarily settled for something “available” and not what I really wanted, and it didn’t end well. If you know something’s not going to go anywhere, I think you would be cheating yourself to go against that feeling. Being lonely sucks, but being with the wrong person is even worse. Stay strong! 🙂 (((Hugs)))
- Michelle@MyDevinaApril 9, 2011 Log in to Reply
  
  Yes – agreed – being with the wrong person, never a good temporary fix! : ) xoxo
daiseyApril 11, 2011 Log in to Reply

I agree with all the above comments. I know how you feel and it is uncomfortable and it sucks all the waiting and wishful hopes that finally someone great will arrive. But in the moments that I’ve run to just anyone, not someone I really like, but just any old nice guy to fill that “space” always leaves me feeling more alone. So you made the right choice! Someone who doesn’t fill up the entire shoes of a man you need will always leave you feeling worse.And when the right guy gets there it will be all more valuable.
- Michelle@MyDevinaApril 11, 2011 Log in to Reply
  
  Daisey – very well said. : ) Thank you.
Martha AnnJune 22, 2011 Log in to Reply

I have been there as well and I do have a somebody who I enjoy being with who makes me drop everything to be with him, however he isn’t ready to grow up and I feel that I may miss something spectacular with someone else if I keep this going. I have not been strong like you have and I keep hoping he will change but it doesn’t look good. Thanks for your story. It made me think real hard about what I should do.
- Michelle@MyDevinaJune 22, 2011 Log in to Reply
  
  Thanks Martha for your thoughts. : ) Is there any way you can do both? Can you go out with girlfriends, and keep an eye out for meeting other people, while still having this person in your life? Sometimes the solution isn’t so much going cold-turkey as just being aware of other options…
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SamMarch 17, 2012 Log in to Reply

I agree with all the comments above especially those of Chad and Autumn Lee we have all experienced the same issue at some stage in our lives that we faced the challenge to choose between happiness right now to the risk of regretting it later because of the person we wanted to be with in the moment doesn’t fulfill our deep needs or will not match our expectations in the long run so i can tell you that you have made the right choice even if i think that many females in your case would choose to handle the situation and have a one night stand instead of staying at home but i guess you are not the kind of person to make such sacrifices .
- Michelle@MyDevinaMarch 20, 2012 Log in to Reply
  
  Thank you Sam!

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