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Since When Did 37 Become The End of The World?

Since When Did 37 Become The End of The World?

Went to a new OBGYN  who decided to inform me (multiple times) that my window for easy child conception was closing.  By the way – he didn’t use the term “may be closing”  oh, not he was definite.  Even though if he had bothered to look at my file he would know that I got pregnant a year earlier from ONE TIME not using two forms of birth control correctly. Clearly you can look at me and I can get pregnant.

And do you think I haven’t already had all these thoughts, given that sadly, said pregnancy ended in miscarriage? I am and have been well aware that there is something called a biological clock that keeps ticking away.  How could I not be aware given so many ways society keeps reminding me of this?   But no – dude had to bring it up more than once – at least 5 times to be exact.  And it was in reality his parting words to me.  Umm Thanks – I know plenty of women who have conceived naturally in their late 30’s and even early 40’s.  My world is not coming to an end at 37. Thank you very much.

If doc had bothered to ask, I would have told him I’m not stressing about children, because while it isn’t an easy route either, I had always thought adoption was a great idea anyway. But not, dude has to go put his version of life and stress onto me, with no invitation from me.  Obviously, this guy is fired as my OBGYN.

Then the following day – my Dad – decides to add his two cents into the mix.  And here I thought since he was out of town on my birthday, and missed calling me for it, that I was in the clear about grief over not giving him grandkids as yet. But no – he sent me an article on the dangers of HRT (hormone replacement therapy).  As if this is the reason I look so young.  As if I am now in the middle of menopause – at 37.   No Dad, it’s Mom’s genes, and the fact that I eat right, exercise, don’t smoke at all and don’t drink in excess.

Here’s my thoughts about a woman’s biological clock and wether or not she has yet to have children: Unless you have something positive to contribute, if you aren’t a woman, stay out of the conversation.

Anyone else had similar experiences or thoughts?

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  1. DaiseyAugust 1, 2011
    how disrespectful! Im glad you spoke out about this and it is so intrusive to have someone do that. I mean I am so so sure that men dont get this clock watching bull. Besides having children is a personal decision. Just because you can doesnt mean you have to! Good for you for standing up for yourself :)
  2. I am in my early thirties and already get comments from the female doctor about time is running out for more children. My husband and I are happy with just one child. Honestly, I can do without the warnings too.
    Not sure what your dad was thinking…sorry about that.
    I look younger than my age to, but I workout a lot and try to eat reasonably healthy.
    I agree, entering the 30s is not the end of the world. Great post!
  3. SassncurlzOctober 5, 2011
    I love this post! I have heard similiar comments before and they always go in one ear and out the other. No one should be watching my “biological clock” that close except for me (really all of that clock ticking is just crap to me). Also, as you said there is always adoption…maybe I want to keep my figure :o)
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      Michelle@MyDevinaOctober 5, 2011
      Thank you! And good for you! I admire your ability to not allow other people’s comments to impact you. : ) The interesting thing is – since writing that post, I now have a boyfriend who in all honesty wants to adopt. Which has taken a lot of pressure off both of us – because we can let our relationship be at the pace it should be, without worrying about that darn clock! I get that adoption can take time and is challenging in itself, but all things happen in the time they should. Wishing you the best, whatever decisions you decide to make about you, and your future! xoxo

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