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7 Things For Women To Consider When Buying An Adult Toy, Vibrator Or Dildo

7 Things For Women To Consider When Buying An Adult Toy, Vibrator Or Dildo

There are lots of questions posted in various locations asking the question a lot of women have, but won’t admit to.  “I’d like to buy a toy – but I don’t know how.”

  1. What do I like?
  2. What do I want?
  3. What if I hate it?  I don’t like spending money on something I will just throw out.

Yep – I’ve been there. My first toys I bought at a toy party – and they were plastic and hard and I didn’t like them.  The next batch actually hurt even more. This put me off of toys for a very long time.  The the next time I sunk $100 into a very popular product only to discover I hated it. (To be fair some of my girlfriends have the same model and love it – but it’s not for me.)

Then one winter, single and curious I decided to take the advice of Barbara Keeslign in  The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex. In it she walks you through buying a toy.

Since I was a little intimidated, I ended up going to a toy party’s headquarters.  And the receptionist – who I had called to ask about toys – helped me pic out a vibrator. She asked me about size, about birth, about the feel I wanted. And then showed me various options.  All in a very matter of fact way.  I ended up with a toy that was slim, yet gellied and girlie enough (it was pink and sparkly) so that I wasn’t intimidated by it.

This selection was a success because I took the time to think about what I did and did not like about all previous toys.  Since then – most of the toy selections have been done the same way.  By breaking down/ analyzing what I liked/ didn’t like about the last toy. And what my overall preferences are.

So when choosing a new toy, these questions have in the past helped me make a selection.

1) What do you want to use it for?  Are you looking for clitoral stimulation.  Vaginal stimulation (vibrator)? Vaginal fullness (dildo)? Both?

2) Do you need it to vibrate or not? If so – do you know if you like harder or softer vibration?  Keep in mind – a harder vibrator will allow more of the vibrations to come through. While a softer (silicone, rubber coated, jelly, etc) vibrator will loose a lot of the vibration because the softer material will absorb a lot of the power.

3) Given the area(s) you are planning to use your new toy – how hard or soft do you want it?  There are dildos and vibrators made of every substance – so what do you prefer?

4) Size – does size matter for this purchase?  This is easier to do if you have something else to compare it to – be it a previous partner or other toy.  Length and Width are both things to think about.  If you are mainly using the toy alone – would it make sense, feel more comfortable if it was slightly slimmer and/or shorter than the average male/ your previous partner or another toy you already own?

One things I did when trying to figure out what toys worked and didn’t – was buy the cheaper rubber dildo’s.  Once I had a better understanding of what worked for me I then bought some additional silicone ones that were more for my long term use and pleasure.  I like the medical grade silicone because it feels warmer, smoother and doesn’t have that weird smell.  They also don’t crack or break like less expensive toys.

5) Do you want it to be a certain shape or do a certain job? For example there are dildos and vibrators meant for gspot stimulation. There are dildos and vibrators that maintain one angle, or some that will bend a bit.

6) Do you need it to be waterproof? If you like to play in the shower, or you are thinking about using it for the shower or bath, that waterproof would be necessary.  However, if you are only going to use it in the bedroom, then it’s not necessary.

7) If you are super intimidated by the idea of toy shopping, make a girl’s field trip out of it.  Or – if that’s not something you want to discuss with a friend – try a more female friendly store.  In California we have both Hustler and Condom Revolution stores which are very well lit, clean, warm and inviting – because they have a lot of fun dress up clothes and lingerie.  And very friendly, knowledgeable staff (mostly women, so there’s no need to talk to a guy about a private personal toy).

And of course there is always using one of the online stores – including GoodVibes.com.  The only disadvantage to this is you can’t see and touch a sample before making your purchase.

A few notes:

  • Always make sure you have the right type of lubricant for your toy. (Some don’t work well with silicone toys).
  • Never share a toy with someone else.
  • When making your purchase you might want to grab a satin toy bag as well.  They work much better than a towel.







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