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Healing The Past

Rape Prevention – It’s Not a Warm and Fuzzy Cause

Rape Prevention – It’s Not a Warm and Fuzzy Cause

I was at a Rape Survivor’s benefit. The event was top notch – fabulous location, mouth watering food and appetizers, great entertainment, and amazing items and opportunities available at auction. And yet there weren’t a lot of people at the event, and the auction was not a success.

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Learning to Love The Penis

Learning to Love The Penis

I was having a conversation with a girlfriend in which she referred to the male sex organ as “that dangly thing.” I actually understood where she was coming from, having had similar thoughts in my 20’s. Because of sexual trauma in my past, I not surprisingly had some issues with men, and sex.

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The Lurking Shadows of Sexual Assault / Molestation

The Lurking Shadows of Sexual Assault / Molestation

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month – and so I wanted to share a post not so that anyone will feel bad, angry or sad for me. But to bring awareness to a topic some still don’t want to talk about. And so many others feel they are alone in dealing with.

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Unravelling the Web Of The Past

Unravelling the Web Of The Past

The other day, I got a call from a family member – trying to unravel the past. It would have been easier on me to tell them to just leave things a mystery…

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Watching a Friend Stick With An Abusive Relationship

Watching a Friend Stick With An Abusive Relationship

I decided to catch up on some of my Guilty Pleasure TV, so I had on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  Watching Taylor go at Camille was heartbreaking. I felt for both Camille and Taylor.  Because I’ve been in both of their shoes.

I’ve been the one in a relationship afraid for my life. And I’ve been the friend, trying to support my girlfriend when in an abusive relationship, baffled that even after admitting it is abusive, she stays.  Both sides are heartbreaking.

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Clearing the Distant Past: Do 400 Years of Witch Hunts Still Impact Us Now??

Clearing the Distant Past: Do 400 Years of Witch Hunts Still Impact Us Now??

This post may be too esoteric for most – but I thought I’d post it anyway – just in case it wasn’t.  In the past few months I have gotten into discussions online which have lead me to read parts of The Hammer of Witches – the main guidebook to “detecting” women who were deemed […]

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What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

I have this question: “What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?” posted above my desk.  It’s a question I ask myself a often if I think I am hesitating in life. So I thought I had this one pretty much licked. But imagine my surprise when I realized today that – no I don’t. […]

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The Lurking Shadows of Sexual Assault/ Molestation Continued

The Lurking Shadows of Sexual Assault/ Molestation Continued

The thing about childhood molestation is, we were young & for our sanity’s sake blocked out memories. The downside is those suckers can pop up at unwanted times.

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Healing from Rape – The Light At The End of The Tunnel

Healing from Rape – The Light At The End of The Tunnel

What happened in our past does not need to be part of our shadow. After I was raped a therapist told me I’d never get over it. I want to tell you that is crap.

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The Mirror – Dating & Self Reflection

The Mirror – Dating & Self Reflection

Whenever I start a new relationship I see how that person sees me. This time I realized an abusive relationship in my past wasn’t quite behind me.

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