My Devina

My Devina

Breaking Up

Proof Life Can Get Worse

Proof Life Can Get Worse

So I’m newly single, big heart crushing breakup.  And 24  hours into it, people are already trying to set me up with people.  Hello – could I have a little breathing room to healthily morn the loss?  But it gets better – the title of an email from a loving, caring, concerns girlfriend:  Subject: Jackrabbit […]

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The Old v.s. The New

From the Dating Archives… So I’ve been seeing my ex-boyfriend now one and off for over 3 years.  During our official relationship we were not best friends, and our sex life was good but lacked some trust.  After our breakup – and time passing – we became best friends and our sex life was awesome. […]

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The Other Woman

The Other Woman

The “other woman” We all hate her – That Bitch! Does she not know what we have? Why doesn’t she find her own man? Why did she have to stalk mine? This is commonly what we think/ say if we learn ourselves or our girlfriend’s relationship has a 3rd party involved.

But what happens when you discover that YOU have been the other woman and didn’t know it?

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Getting Over A Break Up: He Really Isn’t The Only One

Getting Over A Break Up: He Really Isn’t The Only One

I know sometimes we don’t want to hear it – but when you break up with someone, it’s hard sometimes to remember, or even truly believe that he’s not the only one. That the mere fact that the two of you aren’t together, actually proves he isn’t the guy for you…..

In the romance novels, they always have amazing lovemaking, and they always climax during sex, at the exact same time. So in the books, this is always one of the signs that the guy is “the one.” But great sex doesn’t mean he’s IT or the only one for you.

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Getting Over A Break Up: The Art of Letting Go

Getting Over A Break Up: The Art of Letting Go

Editor’s Note: The following is an excerpt of my upcoming book on dating. After thinking about how much grief this would have saved me when I was dating, I thought I’d share it now, before my book is published.

Sometimes things aren’t working out because we aren’t really letting go of someone we were dating. On some level, ourselves and possibly also our friends are so sure that this one guy is IT for us. And that it MUST work out or else (you will die alone, you need him to be it or you will loose your window to start a new relationship and have kids, he’s the only guy to give you orgasms during sex, the list of crap we tell ourselves goes on and on). All those self help books call this attachment. Being attached to something can make it harder for something else to appear in our lives.

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Dating: To “Wait For Him” or Not

Dating: To “Wait For Him” or Not

There’s a common occurrence in the dating world. Girl meets boy, girl & boy fall in love, boy decides he needs his “space.” So boy dates other girls, & girl waits…

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Dealing With A Break Up – Step 1: Let That Door Close

Dealing With A Break Up – Step 1: Let That Door Close

So often a relationship or door closes, and we are so stubborn, so lost, so mournful of that door being closed that we rail against the door. We cry at the door. We pound our fists against the door. We try to trick and cudgel the door. And when that doesn’t work, we lay our head against it exhausted and spent. And only then, accidentally, do we pause, look at our surroundings and feel a breeze coming from an open door at the other side of the room.

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