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Dating: To “Wait For Him” or Not

Dating: To “Wait For Him” or Not

There’s a common occurrence in the dating world. Girl meets boy, girl & boy fall in love, boy decides he needs his “space.” So boy dates other girls, & girl waits…

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Single And Over 30: Nothing. Nothing Is Wrong With Me Because I Am Still Single

Single And Over 30: Nothing. Nothing Is Wrong With Me Because I Am Still Single

Do you ever get tired of people asking what’s wrong with you?

Why are you still single?

Why is “I just haven’t found the right person” not a good enough response?

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No Magic Number of Sexual Partners

No Magic Number of Sexual Partners

One of the other things we as a society always seem to focus on, and secretly worry about, is the number of partners we have …

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Dating: Heads or Tails

Dating: Heads or Tails

From the Dating Archives…

My girlfriend and I were out and about. EJ, a cute, tall, blonde guy came up to the two of us. He …

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Dating: Looking For A Few Good Men

Dating: Looking For A Few Good Men

One of my girlfriends decided she wanted to date a good looking black man. She decided this would be a good idea because they tend to be taller (she’s 5’10) and they like a girl with a little bit of back side or “Junk In The Trunk”. (Know your market). Now the problem is, where in South Orange County are you going to find lots of options?

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Getting Over A Break Up: The Art of Letting Go

Getting Over A Break Up: The Art of Letting Go

Editor’s Note: The following is an excerpt of my upcoming book on dating. After thinking about how much grief this would have saved me when I was dating, I thought I’d share it now, before my book is published.

Sometimes things aren’t working out because we aren’t really letting go of someone we were dating. On some level, ourselves and possibly also our friends are so sure that this one guy is IT for us. And that it MUST work out or else (you will die alone, you need him to be it or you will loose your window to start a new relationship and have kids, he’s the only guy to give you orgasms during sex, the list of crap we tell ourselves goes on and on). All those self help books call this attachment. Being attached to something can make it harder for something else to appear in our lives.

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Dating After 30: The Misdirected Pursuit of Happiness

Dating After 30: The Misdirected Pursuit of Happiness

I was talking to a guy friend about some of what I had observed while dating. We were talking about men in their 40’s / 50’s who are successful, yet out partying, playing volleyball or other sports daily, traveling the world constantly and dating 20 year old girls who don’t care and won’t question.  My […]

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Two Types of Men (Part 2)

Two Types of Men (Part 2)

As promised, here’s my second post on how I felt when I first began dating in my 30’s and it appeared there were only two types of men.

At times it seems like there are really only two types of guys – Commitment Phobic and Severely Commitment Phobic. The Commitment Phobic seem to sense the second you begin to show any real interest and turn tail and run the other way. The Severely Commitment Phobic don’t even get you all that interested because they are never close enough to touch.

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Two Types of Men (Part 1)

Two Types of Men (Part 1)

I am writing my book on dating that I have been promising for a while. And in it, I am pulling from the past 10 years or so of writings I have on the subject. When I first started dating – I wrote this post and it’s sister post (Type #2).  I hope you find […]

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Getting Over A Break Up: He Really Isn’t The Only One

Getting Over A Break Up: He Really Isn’t The Only One

I know sometimes we don’t want to hear it – but when you break up with someone, it’s hard sometimes to remember, or even truly believe that he’s not the only one. That the mere fact that the two of you aren’t together, actually proves he isn’t the guy for you…..

In the romance novels, they always have amazing lovemaking, and they always climax during sex, at the exact same time. So in the books, this is always one of the signs that the guy is “the one.” But great sex doesn’t mean he’s IT or the only one for you.

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