
The Give and Take of Sex
Getting naked with someone new, is always an interesting thing. Not just because it’s new, but because different people have different dynamics. For example, some guys like to participate jointly and some like to trade off. And I’m not talking 69 – I just mean, some guys want to make it all about me, and then me make it all about them. And then some like to make it all about us.
I kind of prefer all about us – because otherwise I start to feel self conscious and/or a little unbalanced. Unless I know that the guy really enjoys it being all about me (some do). And at the same time, I really do get turned on by my partner being turned on. And if he’s not getting turned on, because he’s so busy turning me on, well it’s tricky.
On the other hand. If we are trading times of emphasis, then I can completely let go, and totally enjoy all of the sensations running through my body and then thoroughly enjoy turning him on, without worrying that I might do something that might hurt him, like bite him, while cumming. So there’s something to be said for not multi-tasking.
But still, while I do like that occasionally to be all about me, and then all about him. I really do like the back and forth of touching, tasting, kissing and pleasing each other at the same time.
Which leads me to wonder – do I tell the guy I’m dating I want less emphasis on me. Or should I count my blessing and learn to just let it be less about him ???
Guess I should have read my own blog, here’s one on communication: The C-Word Communicaiton Inside a Relationship
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