Dating: Love Him or Leave Him Because of His Shoes?

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by My Devina | 3 comments

I was out with a very sweet guy. Very attentive, romantic, smart, supportive. And OK the chemistry really wasn’t there. But even before I figured that out, I noticed his shoes… and that’s when I knew it probably wasn’t going to work out between the two of us.

I’m not real into men’s shoes. I only seem to notice if one of two things have happened:

He’s trying too hard with his shoe selection, picking something uber trendy that doesn’t really seem to match his personality.
He’s wearing tennis shoes. If this is a date where I am wearing tall heels and makeup – tennis shoes are not an acceptable form of footwear. I get that some guys want to be comfortable, but to me that’s a little too comfortable. And also makes me think that his idea of a nice night out and mine, may be a little different!
And ok, since we are in California – if I ever ended up on a date with a guy who put on sandals and socks, I might just have to leave.

I know that some men are really looking for a woman to help mold their sense of dress and style. But I am not that girl! I need a man with his own developed sense of fashion and self. I’m not looking for a project, I’m looking for a partner.

What do you think girls? Do you let some dress things go with a man, and think you can burn/hide/talk him out of it later? Or do you want him to already have style when you date?

For another dating question, see The Old vs The New

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Norma GermainMay 28, 2011 Log in to Reply

I recently wrote an article about this very topic. Shoes are as important as the rest of the outfit. If a man is neglecting his footwear, his whole outfit goes down the tubes, no matter how good it looks. So for me, yes, stylish footwear is a must. If I put, like most women, put thought into my footwear, you know I will look at his. http://sexualperfume.blogspot.com/2011/03/running-shoes-are-for-kids-and-sports.html
ChadJune 3, 2011 Log in to Reply

Well you asked the girls, but you know I have to give my two cents on this one. 😛 Personally if you are a guy and you are past the age of 30 then you better have your own style by now.
I’m not talking about trying to keep up with the latest trends or “something uber trendy”.
If the guy doesn’t have his own sense of style and is trying really really hard to “fit in” then I say you ladies better run for the hills. This just goes to show that this particular boy/man is not sure of himself and doesn’t know his own identity.
Now granted I may wear some things you won’t approve of down the line and you can correct the little things over time. However, if the boy/man is starting off with bad shoes then you better say NEXT! 😛
- Michelle@MyDevinaJune 4, 2011 Log in to Reply
  
  Chad, as usual YOU ROCK!

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