Will We Ever Figure It (The Male Member) Out?
Single Life
I was thinking – I really don’t know if I will ever fully understand the intricacies of the male member. For starters, they are all truly different, and beautiful in their own ways. Each one incredibly unique in size, length, girth etc. And then you have the whole – what makes it harder or softer, longer or shorter in the same play date. I swear sometimes trying to figure this one out can drive a girl crazy.
For example, I use to think it was really simple. Guy was turned on – hard. Guy not turned on – not hard. Nope. When I first started noticing that my partner wasn’t always hard, even though I thought he was turned on, I would start to panic. Did this mean he wasn’t into me? Was I doing something to turn him off? Is this what happens once we are no longer in our twenties? Am I not Hot enough? Should I be trying to find the Viagra? On and on the thoughts in my head. Then add to this guys who have the ability to not be hard, because they don’t want to scare you off, or they are trying to pace themselves and focus on you. And it just gets even more difficult to figure it all out. I will say that this particular bit of neuroses did not occur for me until after I was no longer afraid of the male member, and so therefore paying much more attention to it’s every state. Maybe at times ignorance is bliss?
Sometimes it meant my partner had had too much to drink or was simply tired after a really long day at work. Sometimes I really don’t know what it meant, cause he was still OK with whatever we were up to, and after a few minutes – boing back up he was. Sometimes the condom was just cutting off circulation. And sometimes even the younger, under 30 partner would sometimes go limp in the middle of fun, for who knows what reason. When clearly the guy was very turned on – just maybe not looking to complete the act of sex at that moment – and were wanting to play a bit more. So still no definitive answer to my question, except maybe “it depends.”
A guy friend would of course say ask. But this would be the advice of a guy friend who is NOT naked with you – and who I’m guessing would be not giving that advice if he was. I know guys can be very sensitive about their member, and I would never want to say anything to add pressure to them, or do something that might make them feel inadequate. And even though my question would be because I felt inadequate, it’s just too easy to be misinterpreted when blood is rushing around and logic is a littler bit out the window. Maybe when I’m married, and have been with a man for a while I can ask him about it? But until then, maybe it will remain a mystery….
Thoughts?
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