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Out Of The Fire: How One Of The Worst Weeks Of My Life, Turned Out To Be One Of The Best

Out Of The Fire: How One Of The Worst Weeks Of My Life, Turned Out To Be One Of The Best

I was having one of the worst weeks in a couple of years.  I was in the middle of a forced remodel due to a slab leak.  My contractor was ripping up my floors and walls and due to the mold and dust and trying to live in a construction zone, I had become so ill I needed to see a specialist.  Basically because my house was making me sick I was temporarily homeless and stressed out about my health.  On top of that my job was up in the air.  It was out of this hideous week that some of my best growth and change in years occurred.

During that week I kept reminding myself, that even though it felt like my entire life was like the contents of purse being flipped upside down and shook out. The up-side would be that anything that no longer served me would be put aside, and only the things I needed, and new things that did serve me, would remain, to be put upright into my cleaned-up life (ie. purse) in a few weeks.

During that week I ended up coming to grips with two relationships as well. I had been dating a guy for 4 or so months, we were moving slow, but had finally had sex. Only for him to tell me that he really didn’t need or want sex (um kind of a problem for me, who has a very healthy sex drive and was super stoked to have found a partner with whom I had good chemistry). To top it off, even though he knew I was temporarily homeless, and sick he didn’t check in or offer to help.  The stark reality was – this guy – not that in to me.  And definitely not willing to get into the reality of life with me.  Not that life is always crazy but if someone isn’t willing to roll up their sleeves and help you when the need is there, what are you doing with them? Honestly, the reaction I got from him was unacceptable not only as my lover, but as my friend.

The second guy/relationship fared no better.  My ex – the one with whom I had been off-and-on for almost 5 years, text me and offered NOT to help (even though I hadn’t asked for his help).  Really? That was so awesome of him.  He offered not to help.  And then got upset at where I was staying (a guy friend’s house, who HAD offered to help – without me asking). Well, it turned out that my ex, the reason he couldn’t have me stay at his place, where he had 2 extra rooms in a totally separate part of his house was because he had a girlfriend who as it turned out had been living with him for well over a year!  Wow – that really was a shocker.  Here’s a guy who had during that same year, dated me regularly, told me he loved me, and since I had been dating the new guy, been actively pursuing me, and he had a girlfriend that whole time.  And my ex for some reason, couldn’t seem to see why this might be an issue for me.

So now, sitting in my newly remodeled living room, and when all the dust has settled, I honestly want to send these two jack asses a thank you note.  Because they saved me a lot of time and heart ache showing me their true intentions/ feelings for me during that horrible, horrible week.

And I need to apologize to the Universe for bitching about how horrible a week I was having and did I really need to loose the two guys in my life I felt were so very important to me in the process?

Yes that week sucked! But now, fast forward a few months, and I have boyfriend.  A man who really is there for me.  Who comes over to help me without me having to ask.  Who actually, the other day, took out MY trash just because he saw it was full. That totally blew me away. And I have a very cool living room, with new paint, new floors, and a vibe that is much more me than my place before the water poured in from the floors.

Has anyone else ever had a week like that?  Where everything seemed to go to hell all at once, but in reality, it was the best thing to happen? And life really took an upturn for the better after that?

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  1. Roy StationSeptember 17, 2011
    They always say, “You find out who your friends are in times of trouble”. You learned a lot, and are now happier and much wiser. You narrated it very well, and made it a most interesting read, thanks.

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